Marriage is too often thought of as a conditional agreement that a man or woman can terminate if the other doesn’t meet the agreement terms. Sort of like a lease agreement… The landlord and the tenant sign a contract listing the terms and agreement, and if one or the other neglect to meet the agreed upon requirements or terms the contract becomes void and the agreement is broken. What could terms possibly be within a marriage? Financial gain? Sex? Certainly not happiness…
Conditional: /’kuh n-dish-uh-nl’/ adjective. imposing, containing, subject to, or depending on a condition or conditions; not absolute
Lets first look at what marriage is, and where it came from.
In Genesis, Adam was created along with all the other creatures of the Earth, particularly created out of the Earth, or dust. Eve, however, was created out of Adams rib. Eve was not just another creation, but instead the completion of a creation already in progress. “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken out of man’” (Genesis 2:23). Though they are two unique creations, God binds Adam and Eve by a common identity unlike anything else in all of creation. They are two separate individuals, with different needs, appearances, and personalities, but God declares them “one flesh”. Thus identifying itself as the very first marriage.
There is a far deeper meaning to marriage than bridal parties and marriage licenses. There is this thing that binds us together, this thing that unites us as one. A promise we make to each other sometimes without recollection. Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health and forsaking all others, be faithful only to him so long as you both shall live? Those three letters that make up two little words become the most important part of the entire ceremony. When you utter “I DO” you are entering the realm of holiness. You are inviting the Lord to bind you and your spouse to an unconditional and covenantal promise. You are surrendering your rights as an individual to become one in unity with your spouse.
To combat this weeks misconception we are going to “un” it… that’s right, conditional becomes UNconditional.
With an unconditional marriage, you won’t be held to requirements, limits, demands, or reciprocations. Yes, we love when our spouse goes above and beyond what you had requested. Had they not, do we mark that down, and eventually reach a filled checklist of all the times he or she has let us down, and use that as a condition to terminate your marriage? I really pray it is not. God certainly does not take the marriage covenant lightly, and neither should you.
We have to love them beyond our ability… and the only way to do that is by loving him or her the way God loves us. “Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.” Lamentations 3:23 declares that He extends His mercies with each passing day. Should we not extend that kind of love to the person God has us bound to? Yes, because our love is not a reward. It is a gift. Gifts are given without ties, without conditions, and without hesitation.
God has a purpose for your marriage, just as He did for Adam and Eve.
Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6
For His Glory,
Levi and Tany