When a fellow believer hurts you

Over the many years of my walk with Christ I have experienced some amazing mountaintops and have been in the valley as well. One of the toughest trials in my walk has been dealing with fellow believers who have hurt me to my very core. I have heard it once said before that “sheep bites hurt” and that statement couldn’t be more true.

There is something so profound about knowing a genuine believer. Someone who doesn’t judge and try and correct your every move. Who doesn’t annihilate, ignore, and snark at your shortcomings, but comes alongside and lovingly leads you closer to the Father. Prays with you and allows you to confide in them and won’t turn around and share your private matters as a prayer request. One who truly lends a helping hand in service to the Lord and not for any personal recognition or gain.

Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.
John 13:35

Those selfless, amazing gems are so encouraging and truly emulate who Christ is. I am blessed to know a few of them, some who have challenged me to be better in every way. I also know the very opposite, who look good on the outside and ALWAYS have the right thing or scripture to say but their actions towards you prove their hearts to be selfish. Being able to recognize the two is discernment and choosing to not allow bitterness to grow in my heart has been a great blessing. To experience the fullness of letting go and letting God, has opened my eyes, and transformed my heart in so many ways.


If you have been hurt by a fellow believer, do not allow it to drive you away from the church or isolate yourself. Forgive them and give it to Jesus. Continue to follow Him! People will always have an opinion about your life and what you should and should’t be doing.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.
-Isaiah 55:8-

If you know in your heart you are truly following Christ and trusting in His plan for your life, then their opinions and actions towards you are invalid. You are still His child and so are they. Pray for them and watch the Lord not only transform you but your transgressors as well.

Sometimes it hurts so bad because a part of what they are saying is true. We should always leave room for improvement and growth. But make no mistake their actions are not okay and most certainly are not Christ like and they will have to answer to the Lord for their actions either while they are on earth or later, but they will be held accountable.

But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. -Matthew 12:36- 

Definitely take this as a learning and growth opportunity. I am not against coming to someone in Love when they have a sin issue, or need help in what ever it is. Be able to discern here if you are upset because God is opening a closet door you are not ready to open yet, or if someone is truly a sheep in wolves clothing.

 “The way of the fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise.” -Proverbs 12:15 

For a believer to turn around and make someone feel little, or below you and slander their name and gossip about them is in no way okay or like Christ. You need to remove yourself from these friendships and keep them at a distance. Love them always but do not be a fool and lend your pearls to swine. Forgiveness does not mean restoration of the relationship. Although restoration can happen do not confuse the two. Allow this situation to make you better not bitter and watch how allowing God to work it out will make this ugly situation a beautiful one.

For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. -Jeremiah 29:11

I pray that this blesses  you and helps you heal and grow in Faith and closer to the LORD.

For His Glory




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